When we see who we are, then we see who everyone is, and we feel close to everyone in a natural way. We find that we’re willing to be emotionally intimate with others, not out of some kind of contrived effort, but in a very natural way. When there’s no need to try to change oneself anymore, then there’s no need to try to change anyone else, even though we may have been trying our whole lives to change other people to make the world all right. Some of us have really been trying to do that, haven’t we? However, when we don’t need to change people anymore, then we can enjoy them thoroughly, no matter who they are.